Watch Your Mouth! What are you saying to yourself?

Watch Your Mouth! What are you saying to yourself?

Watch your mouth!

Your words are creating magic spells that can keep you stuck or set you free.

You can start a new reality right now if you like.

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I was at a workshop recently with a bunch of wholistic practitioners and I couldn’t believe what they were telling me about themselves! 

The stories we tell others about ourselves are keys to inner knowing and mindset traps. 

Be aware and careful. 
Be vigilant. 

You are the master of your life whether you like it or not 🙂 

“I pay my respects and acknowledge the people of the Yuin Nation, traditional custodians of the land on which I live and work. I also pay respect to all Elders — past, present and future.”

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Design and Print Business cards on Canva + unboxing

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Home Page, Landing Page, Sales page WTFFFFFF

Home Page, Landing Page, Sales page WTFFFFFF

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There are already so many people doing what you are doing

There are already so many people doing what you are doing

I know it can be off-putting when you see how many people are doing the thing you are doing. There are already so many counselors, business mentors, astrologers, naturopaths, hypnosis practitioners, coaches, weight loss coaches, kinesiologists, sound healers and energy workers.

It’s all been done already.

But none of them is YOU.

You are the lens that the modality shines through.

Your particular set of:

  • Past experiences
  • Personality
  • Intelligence
  • Wit
  • Humor
  • Care
  • Intention
  • Energy
  • All culminate in the lens which is you. 

It is inimitable. 

It is important. 

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These are all words.

Easy to say but sometimes hard to experience.

They became my lived experience when I did the Most Wuthering Heights day ever dance troupe one year. 

We all learned the choreography as a group – the same moves, the same song. Of course, the preoccupation is with getting the moves “right”.

One week, our guide asked us to break into 2 groups. One group would perform for the other half and then swap. 

When I sat down to watch the other group I noticed that some people were nailing the choreo and some were not. 

But that was not the gold. 

The exceptional beauty of the moment for me was seeing each woman interpret the dance through her own physique. Her own way of moving and her own expression of the dance.

Every single one of them moved me to tears because in that moment I could taste the essence of them as individuals based on the way that they were all different.

It’s the way that we ARE.

WE don’t have to do anything.

We just need to BE our actual selves.

It’s the same with you and your modality. 

Yes – there are already so many people doing what you are doing. 

But none of them is you. 

It’s what you bring to the process that is so delicious. Especially to your ideal clients.

When they see you in a video, or hear your voice, or read your writing, there’s an acknowledgement, a recognition.

“Here is the energy field I need to be immersed in to grow with on this next step in my journey”

Their inner knowing senses you – recognises  your energy and wants to move ahead with you. 

They don’t care about any other practitioner in the world. 

Their energy needs your energy to make the next transformation in their life. 

In science, each element combines with other elements to make new compounds. 

If I am lead, and you are zinc and the client is calcium, each of us makes 3 different, new compounds. And each of the compounds is important and unique. (I know nothing about science – I probably just set off a stink bomb 🙂

You don’t need to try to be lead. I don’t need to be calcium. 

When we allow the layers to peel off so we can be our most true selves and then share our true self online, our future clients can find us.

 

This is the work.

“I pay my respects and acknowledge the people of the Yuin Nation, traditional custodians of the land on which I live and work. I also pay respect to all Elders — past, present and future.”

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Control and Surrender

Control and Surrender

Today I want to talk about control and surrender, mostly because that is the lesson that is coming at me right now.

I don’t feel like it’s fully resolved. 

Do you know how it is, when you just see your own bullshit, and you don’t really like it? 

It’s okay, isn’t it? To live in this imperfection.

When I was younger, when I was a child, I was in control mode. I was so into control that I just squeezed the love out of everything. 

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Life is actually always this uncertain

Life is actually always this uncertain

This blog is about the beautiful gift that having our own business offers us if we are open to it

I invite you to reflect a bit on the employee mindset, the entrepreneur mindset, and how being in business really is such a liberating opportunity.

If you don’t have any previous experience with spiritual practice or meditation, or for other reasons, you might still be living in a framework where you think that what you imagine is going to happen in the future is going to happen. If this is you, you still get really disappointed when it doesn’t go your way. 

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It could be for a lot of reasons that you’re still really believing that if you make a plan, that’s going to happen.

My nine year old just can’t handle it when we say that next week, we’re going to go and visit our cousins, that doesn’t happen. He’s so disappointed. So he’s still learning that plans are ephemeral.

I know for a long time in my business, I was still learning that lesson. Also in life, I was still learning that we have plans, we might have dreams of what might happen. Then there’s reality, which can be aligned with that and it can be different. 

The thing is when you have a job, you think you have some certainty about what will happen in the future.

 I know this because my partner is a teacher. At the end of the year, because he just has a year by year contract, it’s really intense for him. He’s got that oppression as a man that he thinks he has to bring in all the money for the household. It really weighs on him that when it comes to the end of the year, suddenly there’s this big uncertainty about whether or not he’s going to have a job next year or not.

When this happened a couple of years ago, I was a little bit shocked about why he was reacting so intensely, because I just always assume that he is tracking along with me on our lessons in life.

There are things that he’s way better at than me, like he is way more advanced  for just general kindness. But then there are other lessons that I can see:

“I’m tracking ahead of you on this.” 

I can forget. 

We do that with each other, I just assume:

“Oh, I’ve learned that, so of course he knows that.” 

So I was looking at him freak out about not having a job, or being in this uncertainty about his job next year. 

And then I realized:

“Ah, having a business has really given me an increased capacity to endure the uncertainty of cash flow, the uncertainty of where will the next client come from.”

Where will the next bit of money come from? 

You know what I’m talking about, right? 

It’s very uncertain being in business, there’s no boss, there’s no mummy or daddy or teacher who’s going to look after us and usher us to the next period at school, or tell us what our next expected task is. 

There’s no one to answer to. 

It’s all on us. 

It’s very uncertain. 

I think that is actually a great blessing. 

I said to my partner at that time, and what I know in myself is that:

 Life is actually always that uncertain. 

That’s very uncomfortable.

 As humans all are planning and dreaming and strategizing, and creating structures. From my perspective, that is all just an attempt to overcome that uncomfortable feeling inside us that we actually really don’t know.

We really don’t know what’s going to happen next. And that scares the shit out of us.

That’s perfectly natural. That’s perfectly normal. 

It also feels really good to conjure up a fantasy about the future that suits all our desires and cravings; this beautiful future where it’s all going to go our way. It’s going to feel so great. We’re going to get everything we want.

Of course that feels a lot more pleasant than the discomfort of sitting in the present moment. And being aware that we don’t really know

what’s going to happen next. 

We don’t know what’s going to happen next week. 

That is the truth of reality even if you have a one year contract for your job, even if you have got clients booked next week or you have planned a launch of a course.

Yeah, that might happen. But yeah, you might wake up tomorrow and the aliens have decided to land. 

I mean, that’s extreme, but you know, someone in your family gets horribly sick, there’s some kind of accident, really unforeseen. There is some kind of financial crisis that’s beyond your control. There are a lot of external factors that come at us, just as general householders and as a business owner, even more so. 

As business owners we’re given this beautiful opportunity to increase our capacity to endure that uncertainty, we don’t know how many people will buy our next offer, we don’t know who our next high ticket clients are going to be. We don’t know how many spots we’re going to sell on our group program. It is completely uncertain.

This is just a supreme reality of life and a natural human nature reaction to it.

Being an entrepreneur gives us this beautiful opportunity to increase our capacity to endure that. Hopefully you have a meditation practice or something like that. That’s also helping you get more comfortable with the discomfort of uncertainty. I think it’s a gift. I think it’s a blessing. I can see, when I talk to other people, I can see that my capacity for uncertainty is very high.

It might just be my age. I’m 46. 

Now maybe I’ve just grown out of the fantasy that all my plans are going to come true. Definitely I still buy into it, but everything I do reinforces this lesson for me.
For example, I ran a summit last year and I had this right up in my face with goal setting. For the summit, I had certain goals, I had a goal that I would grow my email list by 1200 and send sell 120 VIP passes. 

I’m not saying don’t plan. Yes, have a contract for work for the next year. Yes, have a job. Yes, have a launch plan, yes, set goals for the amount of sales that you have. 

At the same time be very aware that the outcomes are uncertain. 

That’s just a direction that you’re pointing yourself so that you’re taking the right actions and moving in a direction that you want to move in. But the outcome is uncertain.

What there is some degree of certainty over is the way you show up in that structure. The way you show up, like with patience, compassion to yourself, kindness to others, without scarcity like an energy vampire. Just that you are in yourself and you are okay. 

You have control of how you show up.

That’s the place to work. 

If you are really struggling with uncertainty you get to reflect on: who am I in this moment? 

Am I bullying other people to try to get what I want? 

Am I using marketing tactics that aren’t actually aligned with my values, because I just want it so much. 

That’s real craving, right? That’s real desire and forceful energy.

There are times when I didn’t sell as many spots on a course as I had hoped. 

I have a goal for my hourly rate. 

There were times where I was selling a course and I didn’t hit my target. But I have a target that I’m working towards and everything I do in my business is moving me in that direction.

I hope this is helpful. 

I hope that anything I’ve said gives you some sense of relief. 

Maybe you feel really unresolved.

Maybe I’ve just stirred it up in you but I think it’s an opportunity for you.

I’m sending you lots of compassionate love. I do understand how uncomfortable it is. I just know if it’s really uncomfortable right now that you are probably growing, growing, growing. It is really uncomfortable and there are really good moments as well. 

You know when it’s like when you haven’t planned something and you go somewhere and something spontaneous happens. 

That’s the beautiful side of uncertainty: some beautiful growth will come, beautiful connections and relationships.

I hope you have a really beautiful day, sending you lots of love and I’ll see you really soon. Bye

Learning to be OK with the Unresolved

Learning to be OK with the Unresolved

It is not human nature to enjoy things that are unresoved: 

Unresolved discussions

Unresolved feelings

Unresolved problems

But there are so many benefits to learning to sit in and through this discomfort. 

I hope this video finds you well. 

Much love to you. 

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I ran a summit!

I ran a summit!

Yep – last May I ran a summit and here’s a video about my reflections and lessons from that time:

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Hello, this video is about the summit that I ran. I don’t know if you know, but this year 2022, in May, I ran a summit called the Share Your Brilliance Summit.

I have made a bunch of behind the scenes videos in my client and student only group that follow along the journey. So if you’ve bought a course with me, or if you’re a client of mine, you can go and check out that group.

In this video I’ll try to sum up what the whole experience was like and try to be objective. I have a bit more distance from it now. So it seems a bit easier to be objective.

I attended a summit and I hadn’t really attended any other summits before that. It was Elizabeth Goddard’s Summit, and I was actually unwell at the time I was in hospital. And so I had heaps of time to enjoy all the videos and I found a woman that Elizabeth had worked with who supports people with Summits. Her name’s Krista, Krista Bower, she has a “Summit in a Box” product. Check that out. 

I had been thinking about doing what I thought was a summit. Back in the day when there was Blab and Periscope. I used to do these Blabs where I would kind of speed date interview about a dozen or more people and we would hang out and I would just ask the intro people and ask them for three tips and then promo, and then I’d go on to the next person, it was really fun.

I guess I thought a summit was going to be like that, and then when I saw Elizabeth’s summit, I kind of got a bigger grasp of what the summit structure is.

Once I worked through the summit in a box program, (because I ended up buying that coaching package) which is great a really solid product, especially if you’re not techie because she gives you all the templates, like she gives you a WordPress website template teaches you exactly how to use all the tech that she would recommend. Yeah, that was a great thing to have her support.

Once I bought it, then I kind of started to realize, oh, this is way bigger.

One really nice thing about the Summit In A Box program is that you get an entire Asana or Trello board with every single task time-lined out.

She also has a calculator, so you can plug in your summit date and it back dates all your tasks which synchronises to your Asana board. Krista recommends having at least three months lead time on it. And she also really recommends having something that you’re upselling to. And so there’s a few parts of that marketing approach that I am not currently using in my business.

So I’m not really having freebies at the moment. Or a list builder, I’m not really selling one thing as an upsell to something else.

Really the only way I could get my head around the summit was that it really was my intention for it to be a digital paid product. And it was intended to be an end in itself. There are some people I know that purchased the summit and worked through it in that way. I think they really got the most out of it.

I did have someone jump on a call with me during the summit and say, “Okay, this is the summit, but what are you selling into?”.

And I was like, “Oh, that’s right. That’s what people do.”

And I’m not really selling anything. This is an end in itself.

It’s meant to be its own beautiful experience, which was all very kind of me.

In hindsight, it was a lot more work. If I was going to charge an honest price for that product, it would have needed to be a bit higher than what I charged for it.

Back to the asana project, I use Asana.

So the Asana project was great for me, because I’m used to Asana, it really helped me keep on dates and track all along.

I had a much longer lead time than 90 days because I had set a date. And then I had school holidays and I had other stuff happen. I had to reset my date to a later date, which ended up working really well for all the speakers.

Another nice thing about Summit in a Box is it’s got templates for like the emails that you would send to speakers processes for like an air table task where people can put in their information that speakers can submit their details and upload their picture.

I had to build an entire website. I had to set up an affiliate system, I had to set up a course platform to deliver the summit content. There’s lots of different ways to do it. I learned some new tech which was great. I’m already okay with setting up websites, so that was fine. I’m already okay with course platforms.

So that was fine. There were a lot things that are already technically easy for me. So there were a lot of places where I didn’t find the summit, too awful.

I imagined that if I hated tech, or I wasn’t comfortable with tech, that it would be a real stumbling block. And I would probably have me be looking to outsource a lot of that stuff, because that’s a massive part of the summit.

The other thing is, you’ve got a lot of people that you’re managing, so you’re managing yourself and the website and all the tech, then you’re bringing in speakers explaining to them how the summit works, managing the affiliate stuff with them, there’s just a lot of interaction required, not all speakers, but some speakers.

Then there’s managing the participants and connecting with them and making the most of the relationship building opportunity with them.

So there’s a lot of moving parts, which is fine if you enjoy that kind of level of stimulation.

There’s a bunch of key lessons that I really learned through the process.

Speakers, I’ll just start there.

It’s really important to have speakers who have an audience that they are well established with an audience who trust them, and who are willing to promote the summit to that audience.

I had a couple of people who have really devoted followings and they made effort to promote the summit. A lot of the affiliate sales went to those two people.

I’m thinking of two people in particular, one of them’s a kinesiologist, like trainer, so she has loads of kinesiologists that love and respect her work. A lot of people came into the summit through that woman, and another woman who is also a marketing consultant, I’ve actually worked with her so we have an aligned approach. She made a very consistent effort with the summit. She really sent a bunch of beautiful emails and promoted it really well to her list, and so on social, so that makes a massive difference.

There was another woman as well, who’s also a kinesiologist, who is well known in her community, shared it with a bunch of people. So those women really, a lot of people came in through them.

There was another couple of speakers who promoted so well, and gave it a lot of time and love and effort. While they didn’t bring in as many people, I just really appreciate their efforts.

It is a bit hard to know who are going to be those people before and some people that were speakers, (if you’re a speaker, and you’re watching this, I know that life happens)  who made it clear there weren’t going to promote or were unable to promote because of life circumstances. And that’s fine.

Another thing I learned with speakers is I onboarded a couple of people quite late in the game & I didn’t run them through the onboarding process. So they were just a bit in the dark about how it all works. I wouldn’t recommend doing that. You have your process, walk people through it.

Also, I would like to have a speaker meet and greet, Zoom call so that I could answer people’s questions because people just have questionsno matter how well as you word your emails, no matter how well you think it’s explained.

Other people still are going to be vaguely unfamiliar and not clear on how it works.

Next: My promotion.

I did ads, but I didn’t do split testing. So I needed to create a duplicate sales page for and separate product probably just for Facebook ads people. I spent a bunch like quite a bit, maybe, maybe close to $1,000 on Facebook ads, which I was really happy to do. But I have no idea if it worked. I mean, I paid out a similar amount to affiliates.

I did grow my list. So outcomes wise, I did grow my list by about 400 people, I sold about 50, all access passes. So I sort of had about a third of my goals. My goals were to sell 120 tickets, and to grow my list by 1200. And I did about a third of my initial goals, which is great. The thing with goals is, if I look at what the goal was and what I achieved, I’m going to feel bad about it. So I just had to switch over to being just really grateful and interacting with the present moment like what was real because otherwise I was just going to be sad the whole time. So there was a lesson in there about goals or lesson in there about Facebook ads. Lesson in there about some and presenters.

The trick is: if the summit ticket is $50, and you have a product that $60, you can say to your audience, look, I have this course normally $60, it’s going to be included in this summit as a VIP bonus for $50. So you’re gonna get a discount on my course, if you were thinking about buying my course already, just get it through the summit Plus, you’re gonna get all the summit presentations plus all the other presenters bonuses, so it’s just a crazy deal.

When you pitch it to your audience like that it’s a great offer. It’s a really great offer. And I guess I didn’t really get a chance to explain that to the presenters.

So some of the VIP bonuses were just a bit meager, like small.

I think what people felt was, “what?? I’m giving away something!!”.

No! You’re going to get paid as an affiliate, and you’re going to have someone on your email list, and you’re going to sell a course.

I take full responsibility, that was on me that I didn’t explain it well.

And then in terms of upsells into my own courses and programs, I had one person come from, from the summit, did the group program. And then I had a couple of people come through the summit did some courses after the summit.

What I know about me + my business is that my conversion time is very long, like it takes a year to two years for people to decide to finally work with me. So I’m aware that the seeds I planted in my summit may well germinate and come to fruition later.

If you have other questions about the summit. I’m happy to answer them.

I did sort of want to tell you my like what I spent what I made, I think I just broke even really, especially when I take into consideration the cost of the coaching package the summit in a box package, the cost of ads and the cost of affiliates. I pretty much broke even, but I did grow my list, I did make a couple of core sales and it was just a good vibe as well on the summit. So I did enjoy it. It’s just a lot of work.

There was a few things I didn’t do well, or the other thing was my niche.

So I thought I’d niched really narrow. I was niche, I’d niche down to multi passionate intuitive healers and business people with an online business. And the goal was to just become more visible to articulate your message and book more sessions, but I can see that that is still way too vague.

I needed to do something like:

kinesiologists who want to get online

or

naturopaths who want to understand how to do online marketing.

I just need it to be even more narrow: one group of people and one action and we’re going to spend the week or three days talking about content creation or we’re going to spend three days or a week talking about online platforms.

I needed to niche narrow and I I was being encouraged to do that by the summit coach Krista but I just really didn’t get it.

I guess until you go through it.

You can’t really get it.

So I guess maybe I would want another summit. A lot of people have said next time you do it and I’m like, oh, it’s still a bit too fresh. So maybe like every second year, I guess it might be something I’d be up for maybe 18 months. I don’t know when I’ll do another one or if I will, but hopefully this video is helpful for you.

I hope you have a beautiful day and I’ll see you soon. I’m sending you lots of compassionate love to grow your business and influence the world.